Understanding that I’m different, and the encouragement to fit in taught me to mask, starting at age four. I remember my frustration when others didn’t understand my metaphorical speech, the times when I was forced to always play the dad in pretend-play in kindergarten, my preference to playing with building blocks and on the computer with the boys, my aversion of the feeling of sand in the play-yard.Īll those things could have been alarming – if I had only expressed them. Like many Autistics, I spoke early – as early as five months – and my speech quickly became “professor-like.” Illustration: Far from the Autism Spectrum I was not like everyone else, socially, verbally, intellectually, and on an interest-level. For me, it felt like something was wrong.
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I remember myself at four, knowing that I was different than others. My later memories, also sensory, include the feeling of tight sleeves and heavy diapers, turtleneck collars and itchy sweaters. My first memories are sensory, and include the feelings of having a baby neck, wet with spittle. Like many other Autistic people, I have a clear long-term memory, with some photographic properties. Not crying over spilled milk is still a phrase I somewhat resist, because I believe that an earlier diagnosis could have helped to prevent the experiences that have left me suffering from severe Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Life would have certainly been softer, had I and my parents known before. I don’t believe that being diagnosed early and receiving the help that is now given to young Autistics would have changed who I’ve become – but it would certainly have given me a different set of skills. It’s hard for me to tell if this was for the best, or if I lost something because of it.
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This means that while growing up, I went through the normal path of education and service any child and young adult goes through here in Israel, including a full military service, without any special attention, help, early interventions, or IEP. This makes me feel like a hybrid of a human: I was only recently diagnosed with Asperger’s syndrome, at the age of almost twenty-seven. Looking back, many of the statistics for the needs or experiences of children with disability apply to me. This includes girls on the Autism spectrum, though a lot of us are only diagnosed as adults (Leedham, A. I once read that seventy percent of girls with disability are attacked by sexual predators at least once (Krohen, J., 2014). When you’re autistic, seeing those flags is even harder– our tendency to take things at face value and to believe people are being honest makes us more vulnerable to those types of abuse. Red flags are hard to spot when your partner is a skilled manipulator who can disguise and hide those flags. People aren’t always their best selves, and we all make mistakes. The simple truth is that there are red flags in any relationship. I’m often blamed for a dichotomous way of thinking, a black-and-white mindset, as a result of being Autistic, but somehow, when I answer these sorts of questions with an, “It’s more complicated than that,” neurotypicals often get upset and respond with, “It’s not! I would have just left the first time I saw a red flag!” The most frustrating question, that I hear again and again, is “Why didn’t you just leave?” or “How did you let this happen?”
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Studies show that women from all backgrounds, regardless of socio-economic status, are physically, emotionally, financially, and verbally abused in romantic relationships.
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NeuroClastic makes no distinction between Asperger’s and Autism. Further, the author is from a country where terminology about autism may differ slightly from how it is referenced in the United States. An abusive relationship is something that for many women, just happens, with no organic cause.Įditor’s note: This article contains frequent references to extreme, violent abuse, sexual assault, animal abuse, and psychological torture. Like many other women, I received my Asperger’s (Autism Spectrum Disorder, or ASD) diagnosis late– too late to save me from an abusive relationship with a sexual predator that resulted in me developing PTSD. Choosing a Good– or Bad– Therapist for Your Autistic Child.Directory of NeuroDivergent Graphic Designers & Illustrators.Directory of Specialists Diagnosing Autism (ASD) in Adults.Directory of NonSpeaker Pages, Blogs, & Media.AAC: Augmentative & Alternative Communication.